In the first part of this guide, we discussed common signs of one-sided relationships. The second half of our discussion is designed to help you improve the balance in your marriage if you are in fact in a one-sided relationship. Learn what it takes to reconfigure the roles in your relationship so you can improve the quality of your marriage moving forward.
Pinpoint Why You Feel Like Your Marriage Is One-Sided
What specifically makes you believe you are in a one-sided relationship? Is it a lack of emotional support from your spouse, or is it more along the lines of an imbalance of responsibilities? Knowing why you feel like you are the only person putting forth effort will help you determine what you can do to fix your one-sided relationship.
Discuss Your Feelings With Your Spouse
There is a good possibility that your spouse is not aware of the imbalance in your relationship. Before you make plans to leave or blow up in a future argument, have an honest discussion with your spouse about the way you feel. Explain to him or her why you think you’re in a one-sided relationship and make suggestions about ways to improve this situation. You might be surprised to find that your spouse feels the same way. By getting your feelings out in the open, you can come up with a plan to make your marriage better as a whole.
Be Open To The Other Person’s Feelings
Your perspective on the balance in your relationship may be completely different than your spouse’s. You should be able to express your feelings to your spouse, but you should also be willing to hear what he or she has to say. Be open-minded as you approach this situation to see what your spouse is thinking. Give him or her the same respect you expect for the conversation.
Seek Professional Counseling
You may need to work with a marriage counselor to create balance in your relationship. It helps to have an unbiased party available to hear both sides of the story and come up with a general plan with how to get your relationship back on track. Here at Perspectives Of Troy Counseling Centers, we have a number of couples counselors and therapists on hand to help you work through struggles in your relationship. Speak out and let your voice be heard in a safe, confidential environment.