This marks the conclusion of our five-part series exploring important topics to discuss during premarital counseling. In order to make the most of the relationship therapy, you must be willing to openly talk about the concerns and frustrations you have about your relationship. Hopefully, this guide has provided some insightful inspiration to lead you through your counseling sessions. With the right preparation ahead of time, you can enjoy a long, happy marriage with the one you love.
Religion
If you met at church or share the same religious upbringing, you may not have much to discuss with regards to your faith. Nevertheless, it is important for both you and your fiancé to have a clear understanding of your belief structures. This is especially true for couples with different religious backgrounds, like Christian and Jewish, Catholic and Atheist…etc. Make sure you are aware of each other’s religious values and try to establish a mutual belief system to share as a couple.
Discussion Topics
- What are our individual or shared religious beliefs?
- Do we plan to attend religious services after marriage?
- How can we combine our religious traditions or keep our separate beliefs from interfering with one another?
- What religious ideas will we teach our children?
- How will our religious practices impact our day to day lives?
- Will we seek out faith-based couples therapy in the future to solve problems in our marriage?
NOTE: Perspectives Of Troy offers Christian counseling services for couples at every stage of their relationship. Contact us at (248) 244-8644 to learn more.
Household Chores
The last thing you want to get into is a marriage that feels “unbalanced.” Whether you have a traditional stay at home spouse or you both work, you need to decide how you will handle household chores. If you already live together, you may have a system in place for cleaning duties and other responsibilities. Nevertheless, you can still work on improving those in your marriage and family counseling.
Discussion Starters
- How will we split up the chores?
- Are there any chores that one of us will have to do no matter what? Example: One spouse cleans the bathroom because the other cannot handle the odors from the cleaning chemicals
- If only one of us is working, will he or she still have household chores?
- Should we alternate our household duties?
- Who will cook and prepare meals?
- Do we plan to keep our home spotless? If so, how can we accomplish that?
Work with your spouse to resolve your issues before you walk down the aisle, and you will be on your way to a lifetime of marital bliss.